Ethical Porn Date

Content Warning:  this article includes graphic sexual language and descriptions, including D/s scenes. Reminder that pornography is a performance and does not reflect real-life sexual experiences. When making a selection, it is critical to search ethical porn options.


Confession: I’ve never watched porn before this porn date.

Second confession: I mean, I watched porn when I was a teen, but it was with friends. Before you start thinking, “well, that’s hot,” let me explain. We would put porn on, sit fully clothed, and laugh at it (I never said I was a mature teen). It was something we knew we weren’t supposed to be doing, and therefore it was thrilling. I was as equally disturbed by it as I was turned on. I shared neither of those truths with my co-viewers.

During this very recent sexual transition in my life – you know, discovering I’m a cuckquean  – I realized this fun fact about me: I’ve never watched porn as a visual aid for masturbation or partnered sex. Turns out a porn date made a great first step toward the fulfillment of my cuckquean fantasy, and my own sexual awareness overall.

You see, I have a fantasy bucket list:

  1. Have a porn date with James.
  2. Watch James approach another woman.
  3. Watch James seduce another woman.
  4. Watch James kiss another woman.
  5. Watch James receive/give oral to another woman.
  6. Watch James have sex with another woman.

Perhaps I’ll come up with more steps between 2 and 6 as time goes on. In the meantime, however, this list will gauge my own level of comfort in approaching a full-blown cuckquean experience.

Let’s not waste anymore precious time and get straight to the juice, shall we?

Porn Date Preparation

I made a light dinner – green salad with prosciutto, tomatoes, and a nice balsamic vinaigrette. I bought a beautiful bottle of red wine, some cheese and bread (remember, I’m in France, friends).

During our meal, James asked what my expectations were for the evening. I giggled nervously. The whole day I imagined him going down on me while I watched two women on-screen, doing the same to each other. My answer may or may not have been for him to “eat me out like a dog” and “pretend my pussy is his dessert” and “to be as messy as possible.” Of course, all of this happened in due time, but first, we had to pick the porn.

The Premiere

James surprised me with a female-on-female D/s video. The first six minutes consisted of a sexy blonde woman dressing herself in ass-less and crotch-less chaps, long leather gloves, and kidnapping a brunette, who was casually washing her dishes. The scene cut, and then opened to the brunette tied up spread eagle, on a red couch. The blonde, who we understood was the Dominant, began enthusiastically thrusting a dildo into the brunette’s mouth. The brunette begged for her to continue. The entire scene became a crazed, sexual domination that revolved around this double-sided dildo, ending with the abductees dramatic orgasm.

Front Row View

During this first video, James and I were touching each other and watching. We had decided that keeping our underwear on was sexy – and also, we live in the French Alps, so our apartment is kind of freezing! Eventually, however, the heat began to rise, and our clothes hit the floor.

Being the impatient sub that I am, I turned to face the screen, giving James full access to enter me from behind. We watched together, matching the rhythm of the bodies on-screen. At some point, I wanted to mirror the submissive’s actions, so, I got down on my knees to please him. In between strokes, I asked James if he was watching the screen. He replied, “yes.” I asked him if he liked it. He replied, “yes.” The intensity grew with every yes, every stroke, and every moan.

That only meant one thing: it was time for a wine break and another video.

The Sequel

We sipped the Côtes du Rhones, breathless and thrilled by how the night was going. He found a video he’d saved from years ago. This one was much tamer. It was called, “Hot Girls Having Sex on the Stairs.” It was literally that. Our attention drifted to each other, as we weren’t totally captivated by the film. James flipped me onto my back and gave into my earlier requests. I’d been craving his tongue. He licked, he drooled, he moaned, he bit, he grinded…I watched the screen. A brunette with a strap-on, a blonde receiving her, the moaning, the motion, his mouth…

Before we knew it, the video was over and we had been going at it for at least two hours. It was like a sex bomb went off in the apartment! The sweat, the sounds, the breath, the background video, the wine (did I mention he was feeding me wine and chocolate during? Such a wonderful Dom).

Before we knew it, we were spent, so we took another necessary break.

It’s a Trilogy

This time, James treated himself to a beautiful glass of Single Malt Whiskey, as I browsed pages of porn. My search: porn for women (ethical, of course). I started a video while James poured his drink. A tall, slim brunette opened the scene for us. She undressed slowly, as a man came in. Her masseuse. He lied her beautiful, naked body down on a table – face up – and applied a tremendous amount of oil. He rubbed her down slowly, beginning with her legs, her stomach, her breasts.

Returning his attention to her legs, the masseuse lifted them up in the air, kneeding the backs of her thighs, moving towards her pussy and ass. He massaged, he played, he rubbed. The memory is making me tingle…

Four hours and many videos later, James and I collapsed onto our apartment floor, panting. He didn’t clean me up. We lied there together, dirty, before serving our second round of orgasms.

The Grand Finale

Do I recommend couples to have porn dates? If it’s your cup of tea, I say abso-fucken-lutely!

How did I feel at the end of it?

I felt deeply connected to James. Having a mild outsider’s view on his increasing arousal, while remaining an active participant, was exciting. There was something kind of sacred in watching him watching someone separate from us – even if they were on screen. There were mixed feelings of thrill, jealousy, invasion, lust, profound knowing and desire for him.

What I liked about this experience?

  1. It was a new experience, and that alone has its own taste of excitement (adventure, thrill).
  2. I was able to tap deeper into my own desires and explore the scope of my own sexuality from a distance – in a secure place, with the person I love (exploration).
  3. The sex was just straight up AH-mazing! The porn added another layer of stimulation (enhancements).
  4. It provides ideas for actions, positions, situations, that I wouldn’t necessarily have thought of on my own (creativity).
  5. I now want to buy a dildo (confession, I’ve never owned one!) (awareness, exploration).
  6. As eluded to, it brought me closer to J, not further. Making it a couple’s activity has strengthened our sexual connection (bonding).
  7. It added new images to my masturbation bank, which I used to my advantage the following morning during a solo session (imagination, recall, fantasy).
  8. It added a layer of intimacy to traditional porn-watching. It exceeded my expectations (discovery).
  9. It’s sparked new ideas, such as this: Porn Party! Imagine a room full of people watching porn and just going to town, whether with themselves, each other or their partner(s)!?! Count me in… (creativity, group bonding).

Happy Endings

For me, this experience not only taught me that I do, in fact, enjoy porn, but now I am one step closer to fulfilling my cuckquean fantasy. This isn’t to say that watching James with another woman is like watching porn together; however, it was a small, successful step in the right direction. It proved that his arousal by others can be a turn on for me.

Make it Ethical

If you do decide to have a porn date, I recommend the following names/sites. Why? Two words: Ethical Porn. These producers and directors ensure safe, diverse and tolerable environments for their actors and actresses. Many have won industry awards for their work. Also known as fair-trade, indie, and feminist porn, these productions include real people with real bodies:

Until next time,

Fuck-well, friends!

Quean Mo xx


So, tell me, what kind of porn do you enjoy? What ethical porn sites do you subscribe to?

One thought on “Ethical Porn Date

  1. Well, indeed, watching porn with my girlfriend was very nice, she was watching a lesbian movie while I was licking her, very exciting! keep it up!

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