5 BDSM Travel Basics to Keeping it Kinky on the Road

Black and white photo of womxn in harness, holding a beer.

For the last few weeks, James and I have been traveling a lot. Since our time in Paris (between adventures in Moon City, and Les Chandelles), we’ve stayed with three different friends in three different cities. And, although it has been wonderful (our friends are incredibly generous), I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t affected our sex life.

As a traveling couple, we understand that opportunities to engage in our D/s relationship are minimized, especially considering we rarely stay in hotels. How then, people have asked me, do James and I have a fulfilling D/s relationship, when we are continuously couch surfing?

Here, my friends, is how to keep it kinky on the road with 5 travel basics!

A note from the author: remember to educate yourself on how to safely and properly use equipment; communicate with your partner(s) about their desires, needs, and limits, as well as your own. There tend to be higher risks associated with BDSM and kink, so staying informed, educated, and continuously receiving enthusiastic consent is critical for all parties to have positive, satisfying experiences.

Equipment Essentials

No matter where traveling– a weekend in Bruges or a month at grandma’s house – your luggage should always contain these staple BDSM items.

1. A collar and a leash

Want a quick passage into sub-space? Pick and purchase your very own collar and leash set. Not only can the style of the collar represent your mood or style, but the symbolism is quite significant in a D/s relationship. If I’m feeling particularly frisky, prancing around in a collar is a sexy way to initiate a scene, as it is a visual que for James to take control. Put your own guidelines around these items, and let it be the catalyst to reaching higher places.

A collar and leash work wonderfully when travelling, as they are small and flexible enough to fit in any bag, without taking up too much space. As James puts it, “They are easy to carry, aren’t too heavy, and they’re objects that very easily put us in the mood.”

2. Handcuffs

The second most crucial item in my BDSM toolbox (literally), are my Aslan Leather[BS1]  handcuffs.  If you enjoy restraints, or the feeling of losing control, I highly suggest this bondage staple.

Handcuffs are a subtle, less complex form of bondage that can be used or removed in a matter of seconds. With some connectors and a bit of creativity, handcuffs can turn the most foundational positions into the most pleasurable.

 3. Rope

What limits handcuffs have, rope makes up for. The possibilities are endless! Rope play is a type of art. It’s an area within BDSM that people grow to be passionate about. From simple knots to full body bondage, rope will keep you curious and wanting.

Rope is a suspicious, yet subtle tool. Much like the collar and leash, it is light and requires little space. It can be rolled tightly and placed in something as small as a purse.

Want a great rope retailer? Twisted Monk is the place to go. They have how-to videos, information out the whazoo, and a perfect rope just for Y.O.U.

Wearables

James and I always go to new places prepared for sex clubs, meaning, we always have one very classy outfit and one risqué ensemble. Here are a few of the staple items I bring to ensure I can dress right for the party.

4. The Quean of Queens

Luxury is a state of mind. When I plan for an evening with James, be it a sex club or stay-in date night, I want luxury. Elegance is subjective, and I tend to lean more trash-elegance than glamour. So, my go-to ensemble is a short dress, oftentimes with a plunging neckline, that always reveals my legs. If you’re a shoe addict like me, travelling can be disheartening in this department, as shoes tend to be heavy and take up a lot of space. When possible, I focus on three pairs: one strappy pair of high-heeled sandals, a sexy pair of high-heeled boots, my staple thigh-high suede stilettos (your travel itinerary will determine whether this is too little or too many).

Of course, if you can find multi-use outfits, or articles of clothing that can be mixed and matched, that is the greatest space saver. My feet are always my priority, so anytime I can cut back on clothes, I will.

5. Scantily Clad

This year, James bought me one of my favourite kink items: a faux leather breast harness (see featured article image). Its edgy aesthetic is a wonderful add-on to most outfits. Even in classier attire, wearing the breast harness beneath – against my skin – is an aide-memoire of my primal intentions.

Not only is this harness totally flexible, but it’s super light, comfortable, and can be worn under clothing in the place of a bra. Like the collar and leash, it is a great visual tool. Harnesses don’t usually require other equipment to offer a kinky Dom or sub vibe. If the goal is to keep the D/s ambience with as few items as possible, the right harness will surpass all expectations.

In the End

To sum it up, our suggested BDSM essentials are a collar and leash, handcuffs, rope, my breast harness, one classic outfit, and a risqué ensemble. In addition to this, I recommend a reserve of condoms and lube.

No matter what objects you decide to take with you on your next adventure, communication, and the energy you bring to the experience will be your greatest assets. Travel doesn’t always offer ideal circumstances, so indulging in your preferred sexuality may be a hit or miss. As I mentioned, our recent travels have had an impact on our sex life. Although engaging in our D/s practices isn’t always possible, our effort in bringing our best energy and attention to each experience – sexually or not – keeps the connection alive!

Part of keeping the desire strong is communicating how you feel for each other, discussing fantasies, and anticipating the next time you can get frisky. Sex is exciting, but so is all the stuff in between! So, regardless of where your next trip will be, remember how to keep it kinky on the road with 5 travel basics, and enjoy the pleasure of the company you keep…

Until next time,

Fuck well, friends!

Quean Mo xx


So, tell me, what was one of the hottest experiences you’ve had while travelling?

3 thoughts on “5 BDSM Travel Basics to Keeping it Kinky on the Road

  1. This is a great post, I enjoyed learning about your BDSM travel kit! I often take toys and lingerie with me when I travel, just the basics though. I really like the breast harness, it looks super sexy on you. I might have to have a little shopping trip and find one for me! 🖤

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    1. Thanks Petra Pan! And I definitely think you should get a harness. I have very large beasts and was shocked when it fit me – especially considering it was a “one size fits all.” But it’s so comfortable and such a sexy garment. My Master bought it from Amazon – unfortunately I don’t know from what retailer – but there are so many out there, I don’t think you’ll have trouble. Can’t wait to see if you do ?❤️

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      1. Thanks, I’ll have a look – I quite like Bijoux Indescrets, they have some lovely harnesses 🖤

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