BDSM Travel Basics

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Keeping it Kinky on the Road

As you all probably know, for the last few weeks, Master J and I have been traveling. A lot! Since our time in Paris (between adventures in Moon City, Les Chandelles and then my brother’s surprise bday visit), we’ve stayed with three different friends in three different cities. And, although it’s been wonderful (our friends are super generous), I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t affect our sex life.

As a traveling couple, we understand that the opportunities to engage in our D/s relationship are minimized, especially considering we rarely stay in hotels. How then, people have asked me, do Master J and I have a fulfilling D/s relationship, when we are continuously couch surfing?

Here, my friends, are the ways we’ve managed to keep it kinky on the road:

Equipment Essentials

No matter where we travel to – whether it be a weekend away in Bruges, or a four week visit to mémé’s house – there are a few items we always (and I mean ALWAYS) have with us.

1. A collar and a leash

I am a submissive.

Even more than that, I identify as my Master’s slave. There’s nothing that puts me into sub-space faster than being treated like an animal. Not only do I enjoy having something around my neck, but when I put the collar on, the symbolism is quite significant; Master J knows that he is now in control, and if I don’t obey him, he can punish me as he wishes.

For my birthday, Master J bought me this new, beautiful collar and leash (perhaps you recognize it from previous posts on instagram).

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 Together, they are small and flexible enough to fit in any bag, without taking up too much space. As Master J puts it, “They are easy to carry, aren’t too heavy, and they’re objects that very easily put us in the mood.”

2. Handcuffs

The second most crucial item in my BDSM toolbox (literally), are my ASLAN LEATHER handcuffs.

My submissive nature requires restraint. It heightens the feelings of “loss of control,” and therefore forces me to let go (something I struggle with during vanilla sex). Bondage keeps me from overthinking, and also puts me into, what I call, my “animal” state – being treated like something lower than human, which is…freakin’ hot!

Generally speaking, I believe handcuffs should be a staple for any BDSM relationship – especially when traveling – as they are a subtler, less complex form of restraint. They take a few seconds to put on, and with some connectors and a bit of creativity, can still get you into some wicked positions.

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 3. Rope

Yes. We bring rope. It is light. It is subtle. It is flexible. It literally fits any where. It can do what handcuffs can’t. The possibilities are endless.Nuff said.

Want a great rope retailer? Twisted Monk is the place to go. They have how-to videos, information out the whazoo, and a perfect rope just for Y.O.U.

Wearables

Master J and I always come to new places prepared for sex clubs, meaning, we always have one very sexy outfit with us. In addition to that, I now pack my breast harness – another gift from Master J this year.

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 Not only is this harness totally flexible, and therefore can fit anywhere; it’s super light, comfortable and can be worn under clothing. Similar to the collar and leash, it is a great visual; something that quickly puts Master J in the mood, and in turn, makes me feel very sexy.

What I also love about the harness is, even without the handcuffs, collar and leash, the style (black leather, with metal, rein terret-like pieces) gives off such a strong sub vibe that, even without the other equipment, sets a kinky ambience – and again, makes me feel like a beast in need of domestication.

All the Rest

So, to sum it up, our BDSM essentials are a collar and leash, handcuffs, rope, my breast harness and a nice outfit, in case we find a good club. In addition to this (and what may be obvious), we always have condoms and lube.

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 I hope it goes without saying that, regardless of how much we try to prepare, we don’t always get to indulge in our preferred sexuality. Life happens, and sometimes there are just more important things that have to be done; however, when we get the time, we definitely make it count! Part of keeping that desire going is constant communication about how we feel for one another, our fantasies, and anticipating the next time we can get frisky.

Sex starts outside of the bedroom, and doesn’t just include penetration. It’s also about attentiveness, affection, flirting, teasing, speaking, kissing, touching (outercourse), and the list goes on…

Until next time,

Fuck-well, friends!

So, tell me, what are some tricks you’ve learned along the way to keep the spark going during moments or situations that don’t give you intimate access to one another?

3 Comments

  1. This is a great post, I enjoyed learning about your BDSM travel kit! I often take toys and lingerie with me when I travel, just the basics though. I really like the breast harness, it looks super sexy on you. I might have to have a little shopping trip and find one for me! 🖤

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    1. Thanks Petra Pan! And I definitely think you should get a harness. I have very large beasts and was shocked when it fit me – especially considering it was a “one size fits all.” But it’s so comfortable and such a sexy garment. My Master bought it from Amazon – unfortunately I don’t know from what retailer – but there are so many out there, I don’t think you’ll have trouble. Can’t wait to see if you do ?❤️

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