I Came Out to My Mom

I was raised by an encouraging father who challenged my limiting beliefs, and tried propelling me forward the best he could. He would hug me and whisper in my ear, “you are kind, strong, compassionate; you are talented and can do anything you set your mind to. I love you.” My mother was unconditional with [...]

Picking Up the Pieces

CONTENT NOTE: This article covers topics of body image, emotional trauma, mental health and eating disorders. If you’ve been following my posts, be it on COTQ or social media, you know that my mental health has been a little haywire lately. Anyone who’s susceptible to emotional lows, as I am, can understand the impact it [...]

RAF: The True Evil

It’s Name: Jealousy So here it is, the truth about the pain I’ve been in recently. It’s a difficult thing to explain because it has been a difficult space to inhabit. I never imagined my relationship with Master J could take such an intense dive. But it did, and I’ve only recently come back up [...]

RAF: Forget Sparks, Start an Inferno

This question came to me from an Instagram follower. It may be the one question most frequently asked by couples: how do you keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship? More specifically, the sparks that induce insatiable longing for one another? Rather than offering a 60 second video of half-assed advice, I really wanted [...]

RAF: Breakups & Bad Decisions

Collar Club Members & Loyal Followers: I read this quote (and fell in love with it): "My New Year started February 1st. January was a trial period." Between Sex Coaching, and preparing for our Campaign, Sex in America, I've had little time to just get back to the heart of what I do: Writing! I [...]

Lexi, My Husband’s Sex Friend

Sitting, looking out onto the mountainous scenery, I’m struck by something. It’s a feeling I’ve never known before. It resides somewhere between jealousy, arousal and compersion. It’s confusing, thrilling, and addicting. My husband has a sex friend. I repeat to myself. An online one. Her name is Lexi. They began speaking over FetLife just before [...]

2019: Whole Lotta Shock & Raw

Happy New Year (22 days late!)! I gotta tell you, it feels so great to be writing again. The last few weeks transitioning web hosts has been...well, not a treat. But none of that matters because the Quean has returned, and she's come with some amazing updates. I’ve confided in all of you about my [...]