In 2014 I met the love of my life, my French Master, J. Since then my life has been nothing short of an adventure. From New Year’s Eve under the illuminated Eiffel Tower, to strip joints in Portugal, I’ve experienced the full range of exhilaration. But this is much more than a diary or travel blog. I am a pansexual, submissive cuckquean on a mission to engage and educate as many people as possible on the topic of sexuality. My knowledge comes from both personal experience and self-study. I believe, in order to be an honest educator, this balance is required.
So, why am I here? I have always been a high-desire individual; however, my true sexual awakening didn’t occur until my year abroad in Europe. Once I was out of reach of the sex-negative messages I had been receiving as a female, growing up in a small, rural town, my erotic self began to expand. From this moment, I have been experiencing life from a new level of freedom, and heightened sexual awareness. One that is not limited to the heteronormative, penis-vagina narrative most of us have been fed our entire lives. No, I have rewritten my script, and have no intention of stopping.
Sexuality is an ever-changing and expanding phenomenon. It is a major component to overall psychological and physical wellbeing (the science proves it!). And if telling my truth gives someone even the slightest bit of courage to embrace theirs, than I have fulfilled my purpose.
I do understand that as humans, our existence is much broader than sexuality; however, our existence derives from sexuality, and therefore is not something that should be feared or shamed. I am a profound believer in the idea that sexual liberation and sexual equality can mend major threads of oppression, let alone more independent struggles, such as depression, anxiety and mental illnesses related to body image and repression of identity. As a recovered bulimic, I understand the weight that gender roles can play on sexuality, ultimately impacting our self-perception.
I wish to abolish this, among other things. I am one voice, but seek many. I have many projects planned for the future. Currently, I am preparing for a one-year road trip across North America to create the first index of all thing Sex in America. Can you imagine?
My goal is to find the hottest sex clubs and parties, as well as alternative sexual communities, and workshops, compile this information and share it with all of you. Additionally, I aim to interview sex experts, sex workers, and every day sexual (or asexual) humans during my travels to give this text a rich perspective.
As a COTQ audience member, I can assure you that I will be open and honest about my own sexual adventures, in hopes that you will find comfort and liberty in my words. I am always seeking good conversation, and recommendations for sex related events. I look forward to sharing this journey with you!
Fuck-well, my friends!
“The more you can help people to do self-inquiry, to tell their own stories, to find their own words, to learn their own body, the more your work will be couched in liberation rather than oppression. We can never be the expert in someone else’s body, needs, experiences, or sensations, so I believe sex ed is moving away from telling people how to feel, what to like, how to do the thing and towards a model of communication, vulnerability, self-inquiry, and support.” – Dawn Serra, Sex & Relationship Coach/Sex Educator